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Walking around one of the city lakes recently, we were discussing various aspects of medicine as well as health care in general. One of us is a retired physician, and the other will soon be starting the medical education process. Some might consider this a mentor/mentee relationship, but this belies the issue that we all can learn things from one another, whether it’s health care, self-care, or all sorts of subjects under the sun — for example, grandmothers.
The younger of us has a grandmother who was born in the state of Jalisco, Mexico, and now resides in Washington state. The older of us had a grandmother born in a small town in Eastern Europe where borders changed periodically; somehow she made it to Chicago. Neither of the women had the privileges that might lead to being categorized as “book-smart.” But their specific intelligence, one that cannot be learned from reading or being in a school, would be essential for protecting, supporting and comforting. In simpler words, taking care of others.
Artificial intelligence notwithstanding, there is a lot of information about health care out there. For years now, one could Google any array of symptoms and come up with a list of potential diagnoses — some common, some rare; some benign, some deadly. Patients, friends and even children self-diagnose, and it’s often a troublesome issue: People get worried when they see bad stuff and may not be able to easily dispose of those thoughts, even when the appropriate condition becomes apparent through a reasoned and scientific approach.
Once a diagnosis is established and medication or a procedure is recommended, it’s often back to Google to see if the prescribed treatment is correct, but especially to become familiar with side effects or complications. Ironically, in some situations, the list of medication side effects might include some of the original symptomatology.
Given myriad symptoms and problems, what would Grandma do? Our abuela experienced problems after a medical procedure went wrong. Because of the Depression, our bubbeh never received the medical care her children were lucky to have received. Did these issues inform their view of taking care of family and friends? Not necessarily.
The senior of us still recalls Grandma’s universal therapy regimen: chicken soup. If you were really sick, you’d get a matzo ball and thick noodles. With other conditions and signs, you might receive one of several kinds of thick or thin rolled pancakes filled with meat or cheese or potato. If you were at her house, you could put jelly on anything.